Next to the search for the wedding dress, looking for your wedding shoes are one of the hardest things on your to do list. You might have to sacrifice comfort for style. You might have to choose comfort over style. You might have to choose price over comfort. Or you can go on the quest for comfort, style and price as most brides do. Expect to do a lot of shopping and expect a lot of frustration.
Wedding shoes are a once in a lifetime purchase. They are part of your wedding attire and will show when you take off your garter, so you want them to complete your look. Remember to budget in wedding shoes so you don’t think of them as an additional afterthought expense.
Why are wedding shoes so hard to find?
Most retail stores don’t stock them, they order them because its expensive to stock a lot of shoes that will go out of style or may discolor if they sit on their shelf for long periods of time. Most shoes will not discolor, but if they are cheap shoes with glued on satin, the glue may yellow and give the shoes a yellowish color.
Wedding shoes are special occasion shoes and the demand isn’t the same as a flip flop or pair of cute boots.
Wedding shoe buying tips:
Shop early and keep your options open. Shop so that you have your shoes in time for alterations because your hem length on your dress is dependent on the size of your shoe heel. You may need to buy the shoes before you order your wedding dress if you are having your dress ordered with your hem length.
Some brides decide to wear a color to match the accent on their wedding dress. If you decide to do color, make sure you wear color accents in your jewelry to tie it all together.
Don’t rule out leather shoes. There is no rule that your wedding shoes have to be fabric. Fabric shoes don’t breathe like leather and don’t stretch like leather.
Look for a shoe that supports your foot and ankle and that you can stand and dance in for long periods of time.
If you choose a heel, look for a shoe that has padding in the ball of the foot so your feet don’t start to burn and hurt.
Strappy shoes can cut into your feet after standing a long time and cause blisters.
Feet will swell as the day goes on. Buy them large enough to accommodate dancing and happy feet. You can put in a comfort gel pad and take it out as your feet swell.
Buy shoes that you can wear all day. Taking off your shoes at the reception looks tacky and will make your dress too long. You risk falling or tripping if your dress is too long, not to mention having your feet stepped on with your dance partner.
There is a huge difference in quality in wedding shoes. Price doesn’t always indicate quality. Sometimes you are paying for the designers name. Sometimes you are paying for silk shoes versus satin or polyester fabric. Some of the same shoes that are unaffordable in silk can be ordered in a less expensive fabric so you have the same look at a more affordable price.
If the shoe rubs your foot, pinches or feels like it won’t bend, don’t buy it.
If the shoe is too big at the heel of the shoe, see if adding a heel pad will make a difference or try a shoe size down. If you walk out of the shoe, don’t buy it.
If the shoe is too narrow, don’t buy it, you will be miserable. Some wedding shoes come in wide widths, some don’t. If you wear a very narrow width, it may be unavailable except in the most expensive custom shoes. Consider buying a leather shoe if your foot is very narrow.
After you buy your shoes, make sure you break them in. Wear them around the house with a pair of socks to make them comfortable. If they have a leather sole, make sure you take them to a shoe shop to have a non skid pad put on the bottom so you don’t fall. Bring along some self adhesive moleskin to the reception that can be applied to the part of the shoe that is rubbing so you don’t get blisters.